Just as time spent with friends and loved ones is essential for a happy existence, so is time spent alone.
Honouring our alone time is essential for balance and renewal. During these stolen moments of solitude we reconnect with ourselves; our deepest dreams, wishes, hopes and desires. Taking a break from the world doesn’t mean that we care any less for our friends and family, it simply means that we love them enough to take care of ourselves first. We cannot give away what we don’t have. If we are depleted, out of touch with ourselves, tired and run down – how can we give the best of ourselves to others?
Today, take a guilt free moment of peace.
‘Compassion is not complete if it does not include oneself.’
– Allan Lokos.
Know that in serving you first, you can better serve the world. When you take the time to connect with who you are; your truest, essential nature – the love and compassion your show for yourself will ultimately bless those you come into contact with.
It can be difficult to say ‘no’ at times, but learning to nourish and replenish yourself can be the difference between giving others the best of you as opposed to the rest of you. If we don’t take time to rejuvenate from time to time, we will have nothing left to offer. We cannot give from an empty cup. Today I am bringing you a gentle reminder to show yourself some self-care and compassion. If your well has run dry, now is the time to fill it. It isn’t selfish, it is essential.
You may want to run yourself a hot bath with some scented oils and candles, or give yourself permission to put your feet up and read a great book. Why not watch your favourite comedy in your pyjamas and give yourself the gift of laughter? Go for a sunset stroll and breathe some fresh air into your lungs – nature has healing qualities. Maybe you could cook a delicious dinner and pour yourself a glass of wine or a hot mug of tea? Whatever you decide to do, know that when you listen to your body’s needs and treat yourself with love and kindness, you will have much more to give. You are no use to anyone stressed, tired and grumpy.
Today, say ‘yes’ to you. Fill your cup first so it can over-spill and flow to others. Your friends and family will thank you for it.
We often hear of the importance of loving oneself. However, for many of us, this is easier said than done. We fret over our appearance, compare our progress with those around us and berate ourselves when we don’t ‘get it right’. What is it that prevents us from showing ourselves the loving care and kindness we so deserve? We continue to exhaust our very souls in our attempts to please and meet the needs of everyone else, yet when it comes to ourselves – we just ‘don’t have the time’.
I am a big believer that we cannot fill the cup of another if our own cups are running on empty. We may be able to sustain this for a short while, but it wont be long before we become stressed, depleted and desperately out of touch with ourselves. It is vital that we take the time to do what makes our soul happy. But for many of us, we have forgotten what that even looks like. “Take time out?” we scoff. “I don’t have time for that…I need to take the kids to school/prepare the lunches/take care of my sick mother/earn a living…who will attend to all of these things if not me?” I hear this everyday from women. I’ve been that woman too – so caught up in the Doing that I totally neglect just Being. It saddens my soul to think that we are a nation that prides ourselves on how much we can get ‘done’, and at the expense of our health and our livelihood.
If we continue to ignore our own needs, wants and wishes, we will risk becoming unhappy, overwhelmed and stressed with the every day demands of life. Feelings of guilt and resentment are not uncommon for the chronic ‘Doer.’ “I should be doing something….I wish I just had five minutes to myself.” It is no coincidence that those who take time to nurture their souls and do the things they love lead less harried lives. It is not that they have more time or any less to do, but that they are able to approach tasks with a renewed sense of joy and energy, because they have carved out time to fill their cups. Only when our cups are full can they overspill to those we love. This isn’t selfish, it is essential.
So next time you are feeling anxious or overwhelmed, stressed out, run down or completely frazzled with by the long list of ‘To Do’s’ requiring your attention, ask yourself this: “Have I attended to the most important thing on that list? – my Self. Have I done something today that makes my soul happy?”
We cannot giveaway what we do not have. So love yourself. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Romance yourself. Know that you deserve to fill your cup every single day of your life. And that in doing so, you can bestow your loving gifts upon the world with a renewed sense of peace and joy in your heart.