Whether a thought, a bad habit, a painful relationship or situation; ‘if it doesn’t nourish your soul – let it go.’ As part of September’s self-care, it’s important we take time to Spring clean our lives. For those of you in the Northern hemisphere, as the Autumn leaves begin to turn, you too, can turn over a new leaf.
Begin by asking a few simple questions; What am I lacking? What do I have ‘too much’ of? In what areas of my life do I feel an imbalance? Once we address our needs and the needs of those we love; we can begin to cultivate more peace, love, balance and joy in our lives.
I find it’s best to approach one aspect of our lives at a time. Whenever I’ve tried to overhaul my entire life in one go, I’ve become overwhelmed and created new imbalances as a result. A great place to start is through the process of letting go.
The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.
– Lin Yutang
Maybe you bring your work home with you? Or have a tendency to gossip too much? Do you drink or eat in excess when stressed? If it’s old, worn out beliefs, thought patterns and behaviours, or an accumulation of ‘things’ and relationships that no longer nourish your soul; as you say goodbye to the old and make space for the new, trust that in letting go, you can cultivate a loving, compassionate environment for all involved.
Letting go of grievances can, at the best of times, be a struggle, however hard we may try. Each time we recall what happened, we experience the pain as if it were afresh. We feel wronged, and at times, with good reason to be. But whilst we may feel justified in holding others accountable for our unhappiness, it rarely, if ever, serves its purpose. Instead we render ourselves immobile, incapable of moving forward. Grudges and deep-seated resentments not only effect our lives and the lives of those closest to us, but they also wreak havoc with our mental, physical and emotional wellbeing. Thoughts of: “If only he’d change; if only she hadn’t treated me that way; if only my circumstances were different, then my life would be so much happier…” – only serve to prolong our pain and misery.
There is a famous quote believed to have been said by Buddha that states: “Holding on to anger is like drinking a cup of poison and expecting the other person to die.” It is we who suffer, not they.
Today, may we find that sacred space in our hearts, that peaceful place that frees us from the binds of non-forgiveness.