The Three Grand Essentials To Happiness

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Happiness is a state of mind; a state which can shift from pure contentment to complete dissatisfaction in any given moment. This change in perspective can be triggered by a number of outside circumstances seemingly out of our control; unexpected news, the loss of something dear, an ill-mannered interaction with a stranger…

At times our discomfort is prolonged and happiness can feel like a distant memory. I remember the overwhelming feeling of complete sorrow in the long months that followed my Dad’s death. I was a sinking ship. Afraid of marring others with my grief, I’d hide my devastation beneath a brave face, but on the inside I was an empty vessel lost at sea. If I knew then what I know now, I would advise my nineteen-year-old self to honour her feelings; to be unafraid of reaching out and asking for help.

If you are feeling bereft, try not to stuff down your emotions. Be kind to yourself and trust that this feeling will pass. It may not go away entirely, but as sure as the tides ebb and flow, so will your state of happiness. Nothing in life is constant. As rocky as the oceans may seem, the tides will settle in time. So don’t lose heart. It’s not your job to control the weather – life is unpredictable. But we can learn to navigate the storms, we can learn to stay afloat instead of drowning.

We can begin with the three essentials to happiness.

Something to do:

This could be as simple as petting your dog; making a start on a long neglected project or planting some vegetables to harvest in winter. Participating in life brings us back to the only moment we have – NOW. It is now that we are free from the binds of the past and worries about the future. For me, writing, walking in nature, and belly laughing with loved ones always brings me back to a state of gratitude for the moment I’m in.

Something to love:

At our core, we are pure, unbounded love. Therefore, not to love is a slow death to the soul. Yet many of us forget that we cannot give away what we don’t have. Love begins first with oneself. Not in a conceited self-righteous way, but in a way that is non-judgemental and self-accepting. When we truly love ourselves, we are able love others unconditionally. Make a promise each day to look in the mirror and say with deep compassion: “I love you.” Watch how that love flows outward to others.

Something to hope for:

Studies have shown that those who practice optimism and gratitude live longer, healthier lives. Hopeful individuals repeatedly show reduced levels of stress, anxiety and depression. Hope instills a sense of faith that everything will work out for our highest good. You don’t have to be religious to have faith in a higher power. You can have faith in yourself; faith in a loving Universe, faith in others, faith in a non-denominational Divine guidance. In short, faith and hope free us from the shackles of limiting beliefs, bringing a sense of peace to even the darkest of days.

Today, take the time to do something you love. Reflect and give thanks for this moment. Trust that everything is precisely as it is meant to be, and keep the faith.

In love & light,

Hayley xx

Soulful Sundays #21: Be still.

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Welcome to my twenty-first instalment of ‘Soulful Sundays’. A weekly share where I post a roundup of soulful reflections, each including recipes, songs, quotes, blogs I have read and/or any other inspirational discoveries to sooth the soul.

For me, Sunday’s have become a day of quiet contemplation and simple pleasures. A time to reflect on the week gone by and to consider my hopes and dreams for the week ahead.

My hope is to extend some love outward and to share some simple pleasures with anyone who cares to receive them.

Soul Reflections

This morning, as I sat and watched the sunrise, I listened to the birds and the sounds of nature and felt utterly at peace. Quite, amid Mother Nature’s orchestra, I heard it all. My mind, which had woken restless and busy, became still.

In today’s quote, Lao Tzu, philosopher and author of Tao Te Ching, reminds us that revelations lie within. When we commune with that peaceful place through mental stillness; meditation; time spent in nature; connecting with our surroundings and our self; or in simple moments of solitude – we discover the answers we seek.

In the silence between our thoughts, truth resides. Clarity emerges from that inner knowing that arrives when we silence the mental chit chat and become still. When we connect with our intuition, our soul.

I left the park feeling refreshed and at peace. My worries had dissolved and I had nothing else to think of. As the world around me began to wake, I was free to enjoy the moment. I stroked the dogs of passers by and watched the ebb and flow of life with a smile.

Today, be still. Disconnect from thinking, relax and breathe. Listen to the whispers of your soul and trust that all is well. Trust that everything will be ok.

Soul Strolls

I love lavender, which is why I had to take a photo of this beautiful patch growing in my local park. I use lavender oils daily to help me to sleep at night. Ahhh bliss.


Soul Food

I’ve been itching to make risotto lately, and thought I may try this delicious Cauliflower Risotto with Saffron and Peas found on Kris Carr’s website. It looks delicious!


Soul Music

Today I thought I’d share Cold Plays Up and Up – I like this song because it has an element of hope within it’s lyrics. We all need a little boost of hope from time to time.


My friend is currently waiting for me to take me to the beach! So I must dash – but I want to  wish you all a peaceful Sunday.

In love & ligh

Hayley xx