Empaths are highly sensitive beings who can sense another’s pain and feel it as their own. You’ll know if you are an empath because you tend to see the best in others and their hidden potential. You are trusting and optimistic which can sometimes lead to others taking advantage of your kindness for their own gain. Empath’s struggle to see anyone suffer and will go above and beyond to ease the pain of others. Your optimism and desire to heal often exposes you to a number of harsh, toxic energies in your bid to make others feel better. The problem with this is it can leave you feeling depleted and drained.
Yes, it is ok to be giving, gentle and kind. But it is not ok to be taken advantage of. How is anyone supposed to take responsibility for their lives if you continue to make excuses for their behavior? And how are you to ever feel vibrant and healthy if you are allowing others to continue to draw from your energy reserves without reciprocation?
If you have found yourself in a situation where you are constantly giving with very little in return, if you are often placing another’s happiness before you own – then it is very possible that you have found yourself in a toxic situation and are experiencing energy imbalance.
Be wise and know that you cannot help everyone. Become attuned to those who take without giving in return. Be willing to set healthy boundaries and strong enough to walk away from those who do not have your best interest at heart.
I know I’m not alone in feeling depleted and drained in the wake of the holiday mayhem. Thoughts of loved ones passed, demands on our time, over indulgences in rich foods and beverages, can all begin to take their toll on our wellbeing…
Those who respect your boundaries are true blessings indeed. Treasure them, for they are the ones whose unwavering presence and unconditional love will provide the wind under your wings when you most need to fly. They are the ones who will brace your fall when the struggles weigh heavy on your heart. They are the ones whose patience, compassion and gentleness allows you the freedom to choose. Their demands are minimal, their expectations few, they are life’s true blessings indeed.
In contrast, be wary of those who place unnecessary demands on your time. The ones who, when you tell them you are under the pump, or are attending to someone or something dear, or just need to take care of yourself – proceed to guilt trip or black mail you. The ones who remind you of the time they ‘did this’, or the time they ‘did that’, and speak of how you ‘owe’ them in return. They are the ones who prioritise their needs above your own, above your health, above your dreams and above your sanity. The gift that gives with the expectation of a hefty return, is no gift at all – but an investment. Yes. Be wary of those people indeed, for they are a true test of our boundaries and a drain on our health and resources.
Cherish those who allow you the gift of choice. Set boundaries for those who see you as a mere form of exchange.