In the pursuit of my dreams I was once challenged with; “What if you fail, Hayley?” My response was the same truth I tell the children I teach; “There are no failures. Only lessons. FAIL stands for First Attempt In Learning.”
If things don’t work out, we can grow from the experience and apply the lessons moving forward. Failure is simply an opportunity for growth and expansion.
On your path to freedom and fulfilment, don’t let small minds convince you that your dreams are too big. There have been moments in my life when the stars have not aligned, but I truly believe that if circumstances don’t work out it’s because a far greater opportunity awaits us or there is more wisdom to be gained. Divine timing is at work in each our lives, so trust in the process of life itself. Believe in the beauty of your dreams and never lose sight of them in the face of adversity.
Your dreams are real. So go after them.
In love & light,
There are many of us stunted by fear – fear of the unknown; fear of failure; fear of succeeding; fear of fear itself! The overwhelming ‘What if’s?’ leave us paralysed, unfulfilled and miserable. We even try to convince ourselves that ‘now is not the time’, or ‘that ship has already sailed’, or ‘somebody else has already sung it, wrote it, created, pioneered or mastered it.’ And maybe they have! But nobody has ever done it quite like you…
It doesn’t matter how many greats have come before us; or how long we have to imitate before we innovate; because whatever it is we are trying to achieve – we will be adding our own unique flavour and special spark. If you have a calling to do something, yet are allowing fear to stand between you and your dreams – then you risk a lifetime of discontent. For the risks of ignoring the whispers of your heart far outweigh any embarrassment of failure that may come your way.
Honour your dreams. Honour your soul. Don’t allow fear to hold you back any longer. Because yes – ‘there are hazards in anything one does, but there are greater hazards in doing nothing.’
Today, may we take a leap of faith. Let us remember that taking risks is fun, that FAIL simply stands for First Attempt In Learning, and that nobody does it quite like we do!
In Love & Light
There is no such thing as ‘failing’, only perceived failures. So don’t allow anyone to tell you that you have failed. And certainly don’t think yourself a failure. When something doesn’t work out, there is usually a reason why.
‘If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door.’
– Jamie Gonzalez.
Think not defeat. Defeat says: ‘I am not good enough.’ And there is simply no place for that kind of negative self-talk if we are to create the life of our dreams – ‘if we think defeat, that’s what we’ll get.’
The next question to ask would be: “Where to from here? Do I try again? Assess what went wrong and take a different approach? Or do I traverse another path entirely?” Because ‘if we are undecided, then nothing will happen for us’ and quite simply, we will remain stuck. It can be both frightening yet exhilarating to explore unknown territory, to discover unchartered lands. But the best part is, we are now equipped with the knowledge and clarity we acquired to help navigate our way. For that is what we really gain from ‘failing’ – insight. Take those lessons and apply them moving forward.
Let us not over analyse what may or may not happen next. Let us not be afraid of things not working out, for we needn’t rely on external sources to reward us with our happiness. Happiness is an inside out job. It serves not to wallow in the past or worry about the future. Simply take action and live for the present moment. Dust yourself off and follow your joy, follow your bliss. Do what makes you smile. It could be as simple as spending time with friends, going on holiday, watching your old time favourite movie or finally making a start on that book or project. Whatever we choose, ‘we must pick something great to do and then do it.’
In love & light,
We can never quite be sure why things don’t always work out as ‘planned’. We may have our hunches as to why we lost that ‘one special person’; or missed out on the ‘perfect job opportunity’; or why we didn’t receive the recognition we were hoping for. We may spend days, weeks, months even, dwelling and deliberating over all of life’s perceived ‘failures’ as we convince ourselves: “If only I were ‘slimmer’, ‘smarter’, ‘worthier’ or ‘different’.”
The truth is, we can never fully comprehend the greater plan. Divine timing is at work in each of our lives and we must trust that everything is in Divine order. Everything is working out for our highest good. As painful as it is to let go, when we surrender our past we pave the way for an even brighter future. As one door closes, another one opens.
Bless the past with love for the teachings and lessons it brought. Be present and trust in the process of life. For ‘we must be willing let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.’
In love and light,