There is no such thing as ‘failing’, only perceived failures. So don’t allow anyone to tell you that you have failed. And certainly don’t think yourself a failure. When something doesn’t work out, there is usually a reason why.
‘If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door.’
– Jamie Gonzalez.
Think not defeat. Defeat says: ‘I am not good enough.’ And there is simply no place for that kind of negative self-talk if we are to create the life of our dreams – ‘if we think defeat, that’s what we’ll get.’
The next question to ask would be: “Where to from here? Do I try again? Assess what went wrong and take a different approach? Or do I traverse another path entirely?” Because ‘if we are undecided, then nothing will happen for us’ and quite simply, we will remain stuck. It can be both frightening yet exhilarating to explore unknown territory, to discover unchartered lands. But the best part is, we are now equipped with the knowledge and clarity we acquired to help navigate our way. For that is what we really gain from ‘failing’ – insight. Take those lessons and apply them moving forward.
Let us not over analyse what may or may not happen next. Let us not be afraid of things not working out, for we needn’t rely on external sources to reward us with our happiness. Happiness is an inside out job. It serves not to wallow in the past or worry about the future. Simply take action and live for the present moment. Dust yourself off and follow your joy, follow your bliss. Do what makes you smile. It could be as simple as spending time with friends, going on holiday, watching your old time favourite movie or finally making a start on that book or project. Whatever we choose, ‘we must pick something great to do and then do it.’
In love & light,
Hayley xx
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