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Transformation Is Often Hard

Transformation is hard
Transformation isn’t always a walk in the park. In fact, it’s often a hike up a rocky cliff – sometimes we stumble and find ourselves stuck in a deep, dark crevice.

Just two days from reaching the finish line of sober October, I woke with a hangover from hell. Immediately, I began to criticise, self-punish and drag myself through the mud: “Failure… Did you actually think you could remain sober? When will you ever learn? Clearly you’re not capable of breaking this repetitive cycle…”

And then I remembered, transformation is about progress, not perfection. As I allowed myself to be held and supported, I thought of the advice I would offer a friend or loved one in the same position: Be gentle on yourself. Too often we speak to ourselves in harsh, reprimanding tones – rejecting a part of ourselves as ‘not good enough’, when in fact, we are perfectly imperfect just the way we are. Transformation takes time.

Today, be gentle on yourself. Embrace the messy moments along with the magical ones, for they all form part of your growth and expansion. Trust that from the darkness, a beautiful butterfly is emerging. The journey may be slow, but it is one worth taking.

The road ahead is clear and free. I give myself permission to move out of the past with gratitude and into a joyous new day.’

– Louise L Hay

In love & light,

Hayley xx

11 thoughts on “Transformation Is Often Hard

  1. Hayley, lots of truth in what you wrote, but it is tragic when that becomes one’s lifestyle to the point of accepting no responsibility. A “that’s just the way I am” does not tend for growth in many things that matter. Learn to do a balancing act! ๐Ÿ˜€ – Do I sound like gramma talking? At this point I wish I had taken some matters in hand long ago.

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    • Thank you Oneta, you share wise words here ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’— And Iโ€™d love to share a cuppa with โ€˜Grammaโ€™ and talk โ€˜lifeโ€™ ๐Ÿ˜Œ wishing you a wonderful day xx

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  2. Hayley, my dear friend, this is not a failure, it’s merely a stumble on the path. We’ve all been there and it’s where we learn the most. You’re still moving forwards so just be kind and gentle to yourself. You deserve it. Big hugs and lots of love from me to you xo ๐Ÿ’–

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