Transformation isn’t always a walk in the park. In fact, it’s often a hike up a rocky cliff – sometimes we stumble and find ourselves stuck in a deep, dark crevice.
Just two days from reaching the finish line of sober October, I woke with a hangover from hell. Immediately, I began to criticise, self-punish and drag myself through the mud: “Failure… Did you actually think you could remain sober? When will you ever learn? Clearly you’re not capable of breaking this repetitive cycle…”
And then I remembered, transformation is about progress, not perfection. As I allowed myself to be held and supported, I thought of the advice I would offer a friend or loved one in the same position: Be gentle on yourself. Too often we speak to ourselves in harsh, reprimanding tones – rejecting a part of ourselves as ‘not good enough’, when in fact, we are perfectly imperfect just the way we are. Transformation takes time.
Today, be gentle on yourself. Embrace the messy moments along with the magical ones, for they all form part of your growth and expansion. Trust that from the darkness, a beautiful butterfly is emerging. The journey may be slow, but it is one worth taking.
The road ahead is clear and free. I give myself permission to move out of the past with gratitude and into a joyous new day.’
– Louise L Hay
In love & light,
Hayley xx
Hayley, lots of truth in what you wrote, but it is tragic when that becomes one’s lifestyle to the point of accepting no responsibility. A “that’s just the way I am” does not tend for growth in many things that matter. Learn to do a balancing act! 😀 – Do I sound like gramma talking? At this point I wish I had taken some matters in hand long ago.
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Thank you Oneta, you share wise words here 🙏🏻💗 And I’d love to share a cuppa with ‘Gramma’ and talk ‘life’ 😌 wishing you a wonderful day xx
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You are doing great Hayley and inspiring others. 🌼
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Thank you Bridgid 🙏🏻💗 wishing you a wonderful day xx
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i too am often a mess
i must confess
i want to eat and drink too much
and as such
calm whether
is leading
to yet another emotional storm!
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Beautifully written and oh so potent 🙏🏻 There is much to resonate with here in your words – how many of us consume to fill an empty void when what we’re really missing is true fulfilment of the simplest kind? Thank you for sharing 😌
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yw anytime
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Hayley, my dear friend, this is not a failure, it’s merely a stumble on the path. We’ve all been there and it’s where we learn the most. You’re still moving forwards so just be kind and gentle to yourself. You deserve it. Big hugs and lots of love from me to you xo 💖
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Thank you for your support my sweet friend 🙏🏻🌸 your words have brought much comfort to me 😌 much love to you dear Miriam xx
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You’re very welcome Hayley, I’m glad as I meant every word. xo 💕
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🙏🏻💗🌸😌
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