Letting go of grievances can, at the best of times, be a struggle, however hard we may try. Each time we recall what happened, we experience the pain as if it were afresh. We feel wronged, and at times, with good reason to be. But whilst we may feel justified in holding others accountable for our unhappiness, it rarely, if ever, serves its purpose. Instead we render ourselves immobile, incapable of moving forward. Grudges and deep-seated resentments not only effect our lives and the lives of those closest to us, but they also wreak havoc with our mental, physical and emotional wellbeing. Thoughts of: “If only he’d change; if only she hadn’t treated me that way; if only my circumstances were different, then my life would be so much happier…” – only serve to prolong our pain and misery.
There is a famous quote believed to have been said by Buddha that states: “Holding on to anger is like drinking a cup of poison and expecting the other person to die.” It is we who suffer, not they.
Today, may we find that sacred space in our hearts, that peaceful place that frees us from the binds of non-forgiveness.
In love and light,