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Progress Not Perfection


Perfectionism. We’ve all been there. Striving for an elusive paradigm that, thankfully, does not exist.

One of the best pieces of advice I was ever given was: Progress, not perfection. As a child who was so preoccupied with the neatness of her handwriting and the symmetry of her drawings that she rarely completed a piece of work; and as young woman who would shovel an entire 500ml tub of cookie and cream Hagan Daaz into her gob because she’d succumbed to a biscuit that day at work; this simple revelation truly set me free.

No longer do I beat myself up for ‘falling off the bandwagon’. Nor do I spiral out of control if I step one foot away from my (sometimes ridiculously high) standards.  And yes – I now complete work that before, I was too afraid to even begin.  I hit ‘publish’ on posts that are far from perfect and most likely have typos and incorrect grammar! But who’s judging? I finally realised that my biggest judge had always been me. That was my biggest critic. No-one else. Me. Once I realised this, I could relax. Breathe. I could simply allow myself to be. To be unapologetically me, with all of my flaws and imperfections.

It feels good to have cracks, to have flaws, to be human just like everybody else. Because as Leonardo Cohen reminds us:

There’s a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.

-Leonardo Cohen

Progress, not perfection. As long as we are making progress, learning from our mistakes, remembering to be kind towards ourselves and others whenever those blessed mistakes do appear; then I promise you – those cracks will allow the light to flood your very essence with love and acceptance for all, including yourself.

In love and light,

Hayley xx

5 thoughts on “Progress Not Perfection

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this Hayley. I still beat myself up about mistakes and imperfections but this just calms me down and let’s me know I’m not the only one. Indeed, the cracks are there to allow the light in. 🙂

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    • My pleasure! I still catch myself doing it sometimes too – but nowadays when I notice, I remember to be kind to myself, because without those cracks, we’d miss the opportunity to learn, grow and evolve. I’m so glad you found some comfort in these words xx

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  2. I love that quote Hayley, it’s so very true. I’m always plagued by self doubt before I hit that Publish button. Hope you’re enjoying this gorgeous sunshine.


    • Hi Miriam, for some reason two of your comments ended up in my spam! So I missed them until just now – I’m so glad you do hit ‘publish’, because your posts bring so much warmth to many xx

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      • That’s so kind of you, thanks Hayley. And yeah, I’ve had lots of issues on my blog lately with spammed comments and missed posts on the Reader. Not sure why my comments are being spammed but thanks for letting me know. 🙂


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